Magic Of Making Up Review

We are going through a custody battle and he is not standing up to the plate and letting her get away all kinds of mean ugly things to mess up the children and my bf is not doing anything. I have to sit back and watch it all. Idon’t know what to do. What would you do?

Long story short. My husband can get away with calling his ex wife that he was not in contact with for many years and I was the one that pushed him to contact his (kids) Now his kids are 23 and 21 but when they are not home he is talking to his ex for about 1 hour and calls the next night for another 1/2 hour. He doesn’t tell me when he calls (very seldom) but I know when he does call. I have the right to know I think being married to him for 14 years.
He and I have a good close marriage but he told me she is my friend.
I am so upset and hurt inside that I find when he calls and I have spoke to him about it but he doesn’t seem to cut this back. I understand a father should keep in touch with his kids but I tracked calls from November until now and it has been 15 calls and sometimes for one hour at a time.
My father doesn’t call me or my sister or brother this much maybe once every week or two.
His kids are 23 and 21 and they are out on a friday night so I found he called at 1015pm and spoke to her until 11pm
She is 56 and he is 49 and I wonder why would he do this to me. Is he wanting another friendship ? Is he lacking something with me? They live 5 hours away from us and maybe this is his mid life crisis?
She never remarried so of course I am sure likes speaking to him but how much can they speak about and about what.
They were only married for 5 years and during those years he was away for 2 years and then left her in 1990 ( not for me)
I am truly hurt over this and don’t know what I should think?
My mom said they have a past and history together. They have kids. I can understand if the kids were older but 23 and 21 … he can call once every week or two but not 1 hour on xmas the next night at 10pm for 1/2 hour then on 12/29 and 1/2 for 1 hour … while I was out.
The thing is I never met her and the kids do not want to meet me. He tried over and over to talk to them but they can not accept all these years later that he is not with their mother.
It is driving me nuts because I was the one who told him about 3 years ago get to know his kids & it backfired in my face.
Of course I know he should call his kids but if you saw on the bill how much he calls and your not around and wonder what can be said, what can be spoken about…
My husbands mother is close with her and dislikes and she adds my fire to this whole deal by telling them things.
it truly is taking an effect on me. As much as I tell him it is bothering me, he seems to be ignoring and disrespecting my feelings.
Any advice.

Lets take a new vote do you believe that your ex wife or husband can change over time if he/she was a drug addict that caused a divorced because refused to get help at first?

the best answer shall go to the person that provides the Full Details on 1.yes or no to if they can change over time for another chance,2.why do you believe that and about how strong do you believe that,3.do you think she or he would turn back time from when it started if she/he could,4. which is it your ex wife or husband,5.and in your opinion would being a drug addict be worser or better then an affair
will be choosing the best answer within 24 hours and 19 at the least from when posted good luck to all:)

After all, he is now in MAJOR debt and serious legal complications with her. Plus, they have a kid together and will have that special bond.
I am not thrilled about having to pay for, what should be his ex-wife’s debts, you know? To answer your question, I had NO idea it would all get this bad. Will she take him back? She bugs the living sh** out of us enough, shouldn’t she be willing to take him back in, along with all of their GAZILLION debts? Good thing I have not changed my maiden name over to his yet. The ex can keep it.
Thanks, MarD. And yes, I am a controlling woman. One whom wishes not to live in the streets because of past debts…
To answer another thing or two…he did not disclose all of this to me prior to marriage. ( of course.) aka; “lying.”
We have no children together. Sorry to say this but, Thank God we do not!
Yeah, @ Creation- it is totally only MY fault for not hiring a P.I. and marrying him out of love, not the fact that I keep finding out more and more lies. Blame the woman much, do we?
Why? would I even dare ask someone to see their bills and paycheck stubs before marriage? I knew how much he made, as he knew how much I made. He lied to me about loans and credit cards they had together! Imagine being called up and threatened about something you have no knowledge of?! His reply? ” Oh. I “forgot” about those things…” Really? What else?

Just wondered how many women out there have gotten divorced and as soon as it was final your ex wanted to come back because the person they left you for left them.

We have a 3 1/2 year old daughter. He’s for one never had a thing to do with her. He refuses to give me his S.S. # or his insurance information. I’ve tried calling the company and I’m not authorized, but there are bills that won’t get covered until they have his insurance info. I’ve even gone to the extent to having them bill him and that still doesn’t work. So I tried back in April of this year to go to his mothers house where he lives. I went there 3 different times and had a police officer call me from the police station informing me that I’m not welcome at his house and that this is a civil matter and that I should take him to court!!! Have you ever heard of taking your ex to court for insurance info?? He has everything in the world to do with his two other kids, but my daughter. He even told me that his g/f didn’t even know he had 3 kids until after a year of them being together she saw his child support papers and didn’t recognize the name, but he says he tells everyone now that he has 3 kids. I could go on, but I just need to know what to do. My daughter coudn’t been seen for her 3 year check up because his insurance popped up on their screen and I called child support and they called me back on Christmas Eve last year to tell me that they’re not my seceretary and then hang up on me. PLEASE SOMEONE TELL ME WHAT I CAN LEGALLY DO IN THE STATE OF OKLAHOMA. I HAVE TRIED EVERYTHING AND HAVE GOTTEN NO WHERE
I have full custody and he is court ordered to have insurance on her. Child WILL NOT get involved with it. I have no idea why. I call at least 3 times a week and the lady at the front desk doesn’t even have to get info from me because she knows me so well. I have contacted an attorney and they said they would mail him a letter and make him respond to it by 10 days, but I have a contempt hearing on him through child support tomorrow morning and they told me to once again contact his attorney and see if he’ll fork it over. (He told me he would give it to his attorney back in April of this year and I’ve called on several times and he has all my info and he has never returned my calls) So I will see what happens tomorrow and if that don’t work than it’s court again. I just have never heard of taking an ex to court over insurance info. Thank you all for the advice. When I say I’ve tried everything I have really tried everything. It’s like no one wants to help or listen. It’s frusterating…
Forgot to put SUPPORT where the child is on the second sentence…Sorry